Words for 2020: Loving Kindness
Looking back at the past year of 2019 I feel the journey of life has brought me to a place where “Loving Kindness” will be my words for the next 364 days ahead. I know that in the past I have traditionally only selected one word, but 2020 is an exception because it’s such a […]
Looking back at the past year of 2019 I feel the journey of life has brought me to a place where “Loving Kindness” will be my words for the next 364 days ahead. I know that in the past I have traditionally only selected one word, but 2020 is an exception because it’s such a profound number. Just like 20/20 vision. I think 2020 is a pretty cool name for a year. Last year my word was Silence. I actually think it worked for me – most of the time.
After doing coursework through the National Institute for the Clinical Application of Behavioral Medicine on Mindfulness this past year, one of the instructors, Dr. Siegel suggested was a wonderful acronym of W.A.I.T. which stands for Why Am I Talking? This acronym helped with mindful reflection on the purpose of your words and to consider whether the words you are about to share will bring life and healing, rather than judgement.
In addition, my classroom mindful practices – as an educator – have become consistent with my students, and continue to be a regular conversation among my colleagues. I want to give a shout out to Randy Persad and Associates who were an important part of working with me to lead and facilitate groups of my colleagues to bring awareness to mindful practices to our school.
My Empathy Tales podcast was launched in March and sharing stories about perspective taking, mindfulness, empathy and compassion. Mindful educational storytelling is important to me as a mother of two children; as an educator; as a social media presence and as a human being. I decided for 2020 that all my Empathy Tales podcast episodes will be the authentic recordings I shared with my children at their bedside. In the past, I have always re-recorded the stories so they are perfect and polished, yet I feel I think it is important to share oral storytelling in a genuine way now. This is part of my loving kindness journey this year.
Here are some links to follow and listen to the Empathy Tale podcast:
Currently, I believe there are so many negative narratives in the world, and by putting out positive stories with loving kindness, as well as posts, images and ideas into the world that uplift, and encourage others there could be a small change in the world towards kindness.
I wanted to take some time to thank you to Jonathan Fehr for taking the time to share my story with the world. He is also a published author. You can check out three of his Chapters in episodes in our November and December 2019 episodes. He wrote an article for the Trinity Western Alumni Association recently on my Empathy Tales podcast. You can learn more here: https://twualumni.org/blog/victoria_woelders/
As I end this post, there are two wonderful quotes that remind me of the words loving kindness that have been resonating with me. One is from Rumi about planting a seed and not being able to sit under it.
“The True Meaning of Life is to Plant Trees, Under Whose Shade You Do Not Expect to Sit.”Rumi
Another quote that my mother-in-law shared online recently was from Anne Frank.
“What a wonderful thought it is that some of the best days of our lives haven’t even happened yet.”Anne Frank
My last image of this post is one of my family. My husband Mike, daughter Sarah and son James have been a huge encouragement to me this year. Practicing loving kindness sounds nice, yet in reality it can be very challenging. Through mom fails, glitches, poor decisions and grace I believe these two words will help me grow into a better educator, a better mother, a better wife and a better human being.
I look forward to the new journey of 2020 with loving kindness in my hands!